Wisdom is the principal thing

Sara has a heart to heart talk to the ladies about hearing those words 'don't worry, you're time will come...'

You know, when I was 25 and still single I was a bit sick and tired of hearing ‘don’t worry, your time will come’ or ‘what, you’re single??’ (as though it was contagious).

Now I’m married. Happily married. Except instead of the half-hearted encouragements from a relationship know-all I now hear ‘what, no children??’ and again those words... ‘don’t worry, your time will come...’

As I’m nearing 30 though, people seem to think that it is okay to pry a little further – ‘when are you planning to have children?’ (as though there is no choice in the matter) ‘You know you can’t leave it until too late – tick tock!’

Firstly, I have never quite understood what gives people the audacity to pry into our private life. Secondly I find myself tempted to answer with a pretty blunt response ‘I’m infertile’ just to see their reaction.

What is interesting about this second point is that it is actually not socially acceptable for me to share such intimate details with acquaintances (Problems 'down there'). However...somehow they still see it acceptable to ask me about my maternal desires and function. Go figure.

I have a friend that lives the other side of the same suburb. A friend who lives so close but we see each other all too seldom. She is on the other side of the 'three-oh' (not far on the other side) and has the same woes (as I’m sure does so many other women). We often have a wee little gripe about nosey third parties who like to pry. She has been married for longer than I and so has been dealing with it for longer also. I’m only a year and a half in and feel like I’m quite at peace with the idea of belting the next person who asks me about babies.

It only dawned on me recently that although we whinge about the issue – we don’t know each others stance on the actual matter.

I have no idea whether they have even considered children, and likewise she about us.

Let me tell you it has in no way hindered our friendship!

What it has made me realise is the importance of being at peace with your own God-given plan and your own God-given purpose. Forget Sally-from-next-door who is a year older with three kids and a plate of fresh home baked cookies in tow. You don’t have to answer to anyone other than your maker.